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Here's what's inside
Small book. Real tools.
Everything you need to build a self-image that's yours — and nothing you'll resent reading.
5
Gentle steps
30
Values library
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The Five Steps
Identify your core values, spot the conflicts (like the classic provider-duty vs your own calling), build a small action for each, choose activities that fit, and a two-minute nightly check-in — with self-compassion, never a scolding.
5
Ways to make it yours
1
Week-one plan
2
Your Values Library
A StrengthsFinder-style menu of 30 values — from filial piety, harmony and face to courage, freedom and creativity — so you're never staring at a blank page, with a dot marking the ones that run especially deep in Asian family life.
3
Make It Yours — 5 Ways
Identify your core values, spot the conflicts (like the classic provider-duty vs your own calling), build a small action for each, choose activities that fit, and a two-minute nightly check-in — with self-compassion, never a scolding.
4
Your First Week
A StrengthsFinder-style menu of 30 values — from filial piety, harmony and face to courage, freedom and creativity — so you're never staring at a blank page, with a dot marking the ones that run especially deep in Asian family life.
A gentle note: This little book is for reflection and personal growth. It is not therapy, counselling, or medical or mental-health advice, and it is not a substitute for care from a qualified professional. If you are struggling, please reach out to a doctor, a counsellor, or someone you trust.
Be Yourself — Without Dishonouring Your Parents · An Ember & Essence book · © 2026 Karen Evers Foo
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